Change Is Inevitable

“Change isn’t easy… changing the way you live means changing what you believe about life. That’s hard… When we make our own misery, we sometimes cling to it even when we want so bad to change because the misery is something we know. The misery is comfortable.” – Dean Koontz

A lot has happened in the past year. Good and bad. I laughed, cried, got my heart broken. I thought things couldn’t get worse, then they did. Then I thought things couldn’t get any better, and… lo and behold, they did.

And I changed. As a person. I began to see myself in a different light. I began to see the world around me differently.

I realized how powerful my thoughts really were. I used to be this negative person, a pessimist. I used to think that I wasn’t much, that the world around me wasn’t much. I used to think that everyone was broken, that the world was mad; mad in its pursuit of happiness, mad in its desire to be loved, to acquire, to conquer.

And I wasn’t any different. I wasn’t any better.

I believe that we never realize that who we are as people, it’s because of others. We are who we are for others to accept us, like us, fall in love with us. We pretend to be someone we are not. Our actions don’t match our thoughts. Our words don’t match our actions.

And we do the same thing to others too. They tell us who they are, how they want to be treated, but we just want them to be who we want them to be. Or who we need them to be. Or who we’ve always imagined them to be.

Changing this is difficult. Changing yourself in order to act the way you want to is difficult. Changing who you are because you want to become the person you’ve always wanted to be is an almost impossible task.

Because we get trapped in the comfort zone. In this mind-numbing routine. We do the same things over and over again. And we die one day at a time. We stop seeing beyond appearances, we stop facing things. We put ourselves on auto-drive. We put our lives on fast forward.

But stepping out of the comfort zone is what makes you alive. Truly. Doing what you’ve always been afraid of doing makes you grow as a person.

Life is not only meant to be lived. It’s also meant to be faced. With the good and the bad and all the scary stuff. And all the risks and the craziness and the randomness.

Change is sometimes painful. Change is sometimes hard. But, ultimately, change is inevitable. So instead of fighting it, we should dedicate our energy to shaping who we become.

I’ve learned that my thoughts shape me as a person. Thoughts hold a power so grateful, they can define who you are, what you do and ultimately define you as a human being.

Your thoughts become what you ask for, so dwell on what you want from life, what you need from life. Yes – want and need are completely different terms. Learn. Understand. Grow. Live. Don’t just survive.


Thank you for reading. Love you for that!

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25 thoughts on “Change Is Inevitable

  1. Your comments on living one’s life according to the dictates of others reminds me of an article by journalist Joan Didion, “On Self Respect.” In it she wrote, “[W]e are peculiarly in thrall to everyone we see, curiously determined to live out—since our self-image is untenable—their false notions of us. We flatter ourselves by thinking this compulsion to please others an attractive trait: a gift for imaginative empathy, evidence of our willingness to give.” (I think you’d appreciate reading the complete essay, which you can find here:

    We don’t know ourselves and our own thoughts, so we fit into the selves and thoughts that others propose. Is it hard to please everybody? Yes. Arguably harder still, however, is learning to NOT please everybody. It takes a stroke of courage and self-determination to break from the conventional and find one’s true self. Some of the hesitation to do so stems from an uncertainty about what one will find in oneself. Perhaps we live for and through others because we are scared to discover ourselves.

    Through history, following the crowd has always been made easier than designing one’s own path. Change, as you asserted, is hard, but in the end it is so worth it.

    1. I shall check out that writing tonight! Just seems perfect already. Thank you for sharing.
      Also, yes. It’s impossible to please everyone. The best we can do, is to do our best.
      Change is worth it when worked out the right way.

  2. Hmm, yes, change is the only constant. Or perhaps one should say “entropy”. There again some scientists (many even) deny the existence of time and therefore the possibility of change. Nonetheless we have the subjective experience of time and change so we may as well make use of it and work on the assumption that we can change (even if in fact we live in a universe without free will).

    The next question is how much we can change and whether our personality mean reverts around its base level.

    I have never found any satisfactory answers but I still believe in continuing to ask the questions.

    1. Thank you for sharing your thinking. I agree with you.
      And yes, the question is a bit tricky. Keeps you thinking for hours at a stretch. I’ll be thinking about it now lol
      Anyway, thank you for reading ❤

  3. It’s definitely a life long process and it’s always good in darker times to delve deeper into them so we can all change as everything is changing around us.

    I set aside time to delve into various idealisms to search for alternate interpretations of events. It depends on what…

    When life is feeling overwhelming I tend to shift to Zen Buddhism, lately I’ve been into what makes a soul which is kind of searching for purpose behind the impermanence.

    1. I absolutely love Zen Buddhism.
      And I’m thankful to you for sharing your thoughts.
      I like it when someone shares their insights. Keeps me more connected.

      1. You can probably find a lot of his lectures online, I make it a daily practice to listen to one of his on YouTube daily.
        And, yes, I remind myself of that quote (the real quote is a lot longer) regularly.

  4. First, thank you for liking a thing I wrote. Question – are these your drawings as well as your words? Whether or not, you have a lovely site!

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