Choices In Life

Choose Before You Settle, in every aspect of your life.

I thought of writing this piece after a personal experience.

The choice of empowering yourself is hard. But what’s worst is feeling powerless, remaining stuck and living under the gutless ruleof someone else’s opinion of your life. Be Fearless & Fabulous in what you choose for yourself. Trust your instincts. They never lie.

Life is made up of choices. I believe life is just a series of decisions we make, and depending on our choice, must live with the result of that decision. The choices usually consist of a multitude of possibilities and, whether real or imagined, we must recognize that in some way the decision will change our life forever. Therein lies the rub. Because there are so many factors involved with our decision-making and with its unknown result, many of us hesitate to even make a choice, thinking it would be safer and that we’d be better off where we are instead of delving into the unknown.

If we don’t have a multitude of possible options, we seem to become anxious and confused. So how can you be reassured that you have made the right choice, especially when it affects a major aspect of your life? Well, I am a firm believer that we as souls have various destiny points we must live through in this lifetime, which we have designed prior to our incarnation before we ventured back into this three-dimensional world. But with these destiny points firmly implanted in our soul makeup, we also have “free will” and can choose how we will live through the situation at hand.

Think of how many events in history would never have occurred if someone did not make the choice to do something different, unknown, unproven or un-experienced? How many relationships would never have been realized without making a particular choice? Many would say that we have no control over our world or what happens to us. I say perhaps you cannot control the world, but you can certainly control how you choose to react to various situations and how you will handle them.

For instance, before making a knee-jerk reaction and judging someone, instead, you can take a moment and attempt to understand why this person is behaving a certain way, and you then may choose to react to the situation in a healthier, constructive way and demonstrate some compassionate.

When making a choice, one must be aware of how their choice will affect the future ramifications of their lives. Of course, there are different types of choices; some are easy to make, while others are more difficult. For instance, an inconsequential choice is easy, such as if I should buy that new piece of clothing. But other choices that will affect other people’s lives are more difficult. Still, as I mentioned earlier, the choices regarding life decisions such as career, moving, etc. are very difficult because, in many of those cases, the response to that choice will be longstanding.

• To assist you in making these decisions, I have put together a list of criteria that you can use while making a choice:

1. What is important and valuable to you? What you value may not be of much import to someone else. So know what you value most.
2. Don’t lose focus on your future. Many people tend to make choices based on life as it appears right now instead of looking to the future. Do your choices and its ramifications stay within the goals that you have set for yourself for the future?
3. Have you looked at all the alternatives and considered different scenarios? Sometimes you just might consider a different outcome.
4. How important is this decision, and are you willing to work on it? Don’t get caught up with how important a choice is, but — better yet — what a positive impact this has on your life.
5. Don’t forget to use your “intuition” for your choice instead of your head.

I always find that the more one knows about themselves and their place in the world, the easier the choice. One must always make a choice that is the best for their “highest good.” In saying that, the only right answer would be the one your “highest good” will tell you. Before making any major choice in life, I gift myself with time to sit and contemplate. I bring myself into a meditative state and bring myself into the stillness of the silence. It is in that silence that one communicates with their soul’s needs and understandings. Just by putting forth the question to our higher self while in mediation, you will receive a clear indication what is right for you and in alignment with your highest good.

Always remember and bear in mind that life is a series of choices, and most choices are based on two things: love or fear. Both can masquerade in different ways along your path, but love what you do and do what you love. Make the choices in your life that will make your soul sing, and sustain a happy life during your earthly mission.

Just think: The choice you make today could make not only your life happier, but make a better world in which we live.