Choose Before You Settle

On Letting Go…

To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring;
It means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off…
It’s the realization that I can’t control another…
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.


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—–Have Hope.Keep Faith—–

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22 thoughts on “Choose Before You Settle

  1. To let go… oh my gosh! Superb! I do not know what it was about, but it truly resonated with me and what I go through with my adult children, and letting them be responsible as harsh consequences of reality close in on them. Beautifully crafted.

  2. I found your opening poem a revelation of who you’ve become. It is boldness crafted within the beautiful words you draw for us.
    But don’t take the leap to adulthood to quickly, letting go is to remember the childlike awe and excitement of finding everything new, for the very first time.
    May you always find that excitement in all that you do. And may your first times remain endless.

    Yet I cannot help, but to feel sad for that poor fishy. I know it has your heart of love, and I saw the bowtie positioned above it; perhaps her man is out looking for a bigger place for them to live?

    Oh, the science thing just kicked in…equals and opposites. What if the curvature of the bulb only makes her appear large? And in fact she’s barely the size of a pinky fingernail, enjoying the peacefulness of her vast ocean?
    And lastly, because you are inspiration centric, I will picture myself swimming comfortably within my ‘think’ tank, creating bright ideas (but not the mechanical kind).
    Love you, love your work. Peace.

    P.S. What if the fish is a guy and his bowtie just got caught on the line when he was shimmying down to the water bowl? His nearsightedness delivering the reflection which he mistook for a companion. His heart now swollen in grief and ready to burst. Okay, okay. I’ll stop now, but I hadn’t written a word in over two weeks, so I’ll get back to the bright ideas thing.

  3. Oh, wow. I cannot tell you how much this means to me personally. I recently had to make peace with a failed relationship with someone I loved dearly and gave so many chances (losing parts of myself in the process). Letting go of him was terribly hard, and because I still see him a lot at work, it gets harder. But this is such an incredible post and so truthful and raw. Thank you for sharing. I’m linking this post to Twitter!

  4. It is possible to let go too much. I let go of everyone who did not want to stay, and so now I am very lonely all the time. So now I hold on tightly to the few who matter, even though they have gone away, too, hoping that one day, they will come back. “Letting go” doesn’t always make everything better.

  5. As always, Aish you are amazing. God bless you with the best talent and potential. Proud to be a part of your audience. Always feels that I am connected to you, thankyou so much for having this good influence on my life, your write-ups are worth reading again and again. All the best

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