Unconditional Forgiveness Is The Key

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I had written entire blog posts on Forgiveness and Karma, (each of them received very awesome responses) and I just wanted to continue on the same topics.

Forgiveness means that we must release the pain, anger, and grudges that suffocate us, wrenching out our life force. Forgiveness allows us to breathe, live and love freely. When someone hurts us – knowingly or unknowingly, purposely or accidentally – we have three ways of dealing with that hurt :

Expression :

We can express our anger, hurt and pain if we can do so calmly, articulately, peacefully and in a productive way. But typically, the expression of anger quickly degenerates into shouting, tantrums, and revenge. Blinded, we can only see the hurtful act. Years or decades of love – as well as our inner calm, balance, and peace – get left by the wayside of our consciousness as the steam engine of fury plunges ahead.

Furthermore, expression of anger becomes a habit. We become accustomed to immediately giving voice to our wrath and rage. Slowly, we become the slave of our intractable anger, unable to contain it, restrain it or reign in it, and it becomes a hurdle on our spiritual path. Each time we express it, we deepen the groove of our anger in our own psyche, making it more likely that we will lose our temper in future. Just as a river water flows into the channels carved through years of erosion, so our emotions and behaviors flow in the pathways laid down by our own life’s patterns.

Suppression :

We feel the pain and anger but – due to societal, cultural or psychological factors – we do not express it. The pain is real and it demands to be felt. It lives within us, feeding on every thought of vengeance, playing and replaying the thought that has been perpetrated upon us over and over again on the screen of our consciousness. We are able to squeeze our lips shut, preventing the venomous words from spilling out, but our ire festers within us. Suppressed anger causes depression, anxiety or stress as well as myriad physical illnesses. Further, it distances us day by day from our deep, inner Self.

Forgiveness :

The only other option is to forgive. Many people misunderstand forgiveness to be a pardoning or exoneration of the act committed. It is not. I believe every wrong act will be punished by the Law of Karma. Sir Isaac Newton discovered that “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” We simply call it Karma. Every action you perform is like a boomerang. It comes back to you – If not now, then later; If not directly then indirectly. Whatever pain we cause to another, we will experience ourselves. No one is free from the Law of Karma.

It is crucial to understand that forgiveness does not mean we absolve someone of their Karma. That is God’s role, and it is not one that we have the power to play even if we wanted to.

Forgiveness means that we are able to separate the person from the act. It means that the act may be deplorable, but the person who committed the act is still human and therefore has strengths and weaknesses, good and negative points.

Forgiveness means that we are ready to move forward, that we do not want to stagnate and freeze in the moment of the inflicted pain. When we hold on to our anger, it immobilizes us, precluding us from blossoming into the people we are supposed to become and achieving all that we are supposed to achieve.

Thank you for reading. Love you for that!

—–Have Hope.Keep Faith—–

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42 thoughts on “Unconditional Forgiveness Is The Key

  1. So forgiveness is letting go of the anger? I’ve been struggling with the concept of ‘forgiveness’ for decades. This is a very productive way to think about it. Thanks for this.

  2. You have arranged our feelings in the right order. First comes expression, we fight, cry, shout. Second comes suppression, we feel ashamed, don’t discuss about it, get depressed. Lastly comes forgiveness, we come to terms with our heart and mind and just learn to forgive the people who have hurt us.
    Beautifully written.

  3. Oh how I LOVE your art on this one!!! I recently read CS Lewis’s book “Mere Christianity” and am planning to write a bit about forgiveness based on what he said. May I add a link to this post as well?

    1. Lewis also has a great essay on forgiveness called, “On Forgiveness” (catchy huh?). Very powerful and based clearly on what Lord Jesus said about the matter. Forgiveness is not easy; yet, it is critical. ‘Mere Christianity’ is one of my favorite works of Lewis.

      Thank you for sharing your heart, Aishwarya! Thank you, jen, for reminding me of this great essay and this great book!

  4. Beautifully written with great degree of introspection. I loved your way of using allegory and imagery in expressing abstract ideas. For instance, your lines”Just as a river water flows into the channels carved through years of erosion, so our emotions and behaviors flow in the pathways laid down by our own life’s patterns.”You believe in the law of karma intensively that made u write all are judged by the law of karma. You said by forgiveness person is detached from the act… i really couldnt compehend that. The article is awesome especially your mention on the successive motion of feelings ie;from expressing to suppressing and ultimately to forgiveness that gives a meaning. Of course forgiveness is not just ignoring the pain nor it is being unconcerned. The dimension of forgiving extends to sacrifice one’s life for the enemy and thus to gain him. Appreciating your work i would be waiting for the next.

  5. Very timely post as, especially in the USA, it is becoming more and more the norm that one should never forgive. Never forget. And always hold someone’s past actions against them, relegating them to some ‘lower’ form of humanity.

    That is not God’s way. God’s way is as you describe. I especially like that you point out that forgiving and forgetting are different, and that forgiving does not negate the consequences. Only God can do so, and when He does, it is an act of grace.

    – Yosef.

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  7. My situation is that I know intellectually but it is not yet in my being!

    FORGIVENESS have MERCY on me!

  8. For me, forgiving is not taking personally whatever the other is doing that offends me, but recognizing, instead, that we are all doing the best we can with the information, experience, and guidance we have been given — and that we are all part of ALL THAT IS. The “other” offers me a mirror of my projections, shows me what I need to see. And I have yet to “get there” while the thing is happening, but only come to it later

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